Category: Life Coaching

CLICK HERE – Play this while you read the message, … turn up your speakers and open your heart …

“Say Something … I’m giving up on you”  a powerful song  by ~ A Great Big World and sung with Christina Aguilera transcends emotions (past and present) and soars into our futures.  Many of us will recall a love of our past; others will live in the moment and succor ourselves when faced with the greatest pain, the pain of indifference and hopefully we’ll all discover a brighter future.

One of the sweeter comments found in the posts I perused of this song was a woman named Selena who connected her thoughts to religion, and specifically God.  She, like many of us, felt abandoned, her prayers unanswered, unrequited love, despair … she ultimately walked away from God , closing her post with, “I’m too religious.”

I don’t agree with her conclusion, not only does God “not give up on us” he allows us to explore our circumstances to their fullest. We’ve heard since childhood, God answers prayers in his time frame, not ours.  My experience is his time frame can be very long, and sometimes there might not be an answer, indicating “it’s ours to decide,” not that God doesn’t care, he gives us what can be called agency, the ability to decide for ourselves.  This can be very scary, wouldn’t we all like to be absolved from responsibility, but alas, the world operates under different rules.  We are responsible for ourselves, our decisions (and no decision is a decision) and we have the opportunity to learn from these experiences.

As I reflect on the lyrics, the hauntingly simple melody, the minor key with all its power, it allows me to drift into the deep recesses of my mind and face those moments when I found myself face to face with personally significant decisions … I’ve failed in many of them; the pain, then and now is real and almost unbearable.  Stripped of pride, arrogance, anger and control I can see now a different lyric is in order “Say something … I’m giving up on you,” isn’t using the proper pronoun … “I’m giving up on me” would be more accurate.  It was my pride, my stubbornness that separated me from them and I tried to protect me from me and place the burden on them.

In the quiet space we are all capable of getting to – honest, open and receptive a song like this, can open our hearts and allow the love to suffuse our entire being.  In these ephemeral moments we truly see the hand of God in our lives, we feel his boundless love, we forgive ourselves and like the final lyric in the song we can indeed … “say something” …

My love for all of you who take the time to read this post is like the peeling of an onion, it’s an amazing journey … the aroma is palpable and the tears cleansing.

Merry Christmas

Here is some interesting insights:

1. Babies left un-touched by another human after birth will die in approximately seven months. Read “The Primacy of Human Touch” by Dr. Ben E. Benjamin This newsletter article describes how perfectly healthy babies, well fed, cared for in sterile conditions – died … read more:

2. Here is to an interesting video that explains that although we think we are socially interacting – we’re not! Technology is crushing our culture

3. I’ve heard people tell me that they have been at conventions with 1000’s of people and yet felt “completely lonely.”

4. I ran across a quote the other day that went something like this, “I look around this crowded room of people and realize I have no friends here. I further realized, I’m not a friend to anyone here.”

People ask me what is a – “Life Coach?”  “What do you do?” … My answer is – I have personal conversations with people who are interested in connecting their “current reality” with their “future expectations.”  Together we talk about their dreams, their goals, their reality and how those (3) items should be totally integrated into their life.  Processes, procedures, systems, etc are available in the market place that produce wonderful results in people’s lives and I introduce them to those items, work with them to understand what they really mean, talk about them and practice implementing the various techniques needed to create a life full of meaning, purpose, focus and results.

If you’d like to “talk” with another person, not a computer, not emails, not text messages, not Facebook posts, not 140 word Tweets, not photo shopped pictures, but a breathing human who has “experienced  life” and is willing to share with you – feelings, fears, joys, triumphs, failures, broken promises, etc … then Life Coaching is what you are looking for and I’m the person to introduce you to it.  We discuss – Life, Business, Careers, Team Membership, Corporate Cultures, Leadership, Management, Time Management, Selling, Buying, etc.

There is nothing scarier than the “unknown.”   The greatest fear I have is that you never get past the biggest fear most of us have and that’s of “ourselves” … we do not live up to the challenge provided thousands of years ago to mankind of “Man, know thyself” – this was the challenge of ancient Greek philosophers and it has been a goal of mankind since.

You can call me, my phone number is 801-560-9945 I’d love to meet you and hear about you.  The 1^st visit is completely complimentary, no risk, no pressure and at the very least you’ll have an opportunity to be heard by another without an agenda.

What do you have to lose? It’s complimentary …

What do you see?

Will the government default?  Will the “shut-down” continue?  Will interest rates skyrocket, stock markets crash, will the dollar sink to all time lows? What do you think???

Let’s begin with a question to answer those possibilities – What can you do about any of those?  My answer to them is, “absolutely nothing.”  Allow me to answer for you; it’s the same, “absolutely nothing.”

What then can you do?  What can I do?  What can anybody do?  We all have the same answer … we can control how we “respond” to any external event that occurs in our lives.  We can explode with anger, we could sink into despair, we could “cash out” out of every investment we own, we could panic, we could cry … whatever we choose we know that it’s our choice – not something imposed upon us.  We’re responsible for our own reaction, response, action, etc – no one else can impose a response upon us UNLESS we allow it.

Aside from the immediate reality of the situation described above, there is this to consider: Philosophers of all ages have shared with us the “reality” in this life – we cannot return to the past, we have no promise of a tomorrow, all we have is “the here and now” … so the philosophic answer to my question of, “what will your tomorrow bring,” is “what will you create.”

I’ve had tomatoes throw at me for such logic, yet I insist that we really DO create the world’s we live in, that we are getting exactly what the universe has in-store for us to learn/experience/etc and that is exactly what we need at this moment.

There are two kinds of people in business (or any other system you choose to compare) those who believe we live in an “abundant world” and those who believe we live in a world of “scarcity.” (The glass is half full or half empty) Both are correct or right … it’s all in your own personal perspective.

Optimist’s look to the abundance and act accordingly; pessimist’s find scarcity and do likewise.  We all know who is more fun or pleasant to be around, yet we all fall into “both camps” depending upon external circumstances.  I’ve heard it said, “A recession is when you’re out of work, a depression is when I’m out of work,” and many of us will get a chance to experience both!

There is no iron clad answer of how one should be – optimistic or pessimistic, there is however, only one correct way to proceed … taking complete responsibility for how one responds/reacts/acts/ etc to whatever “life throws your way”

Focus on what you can control, remember you only have “now” and don’t second guess yourself – be authentic, honest and consistent and you’ll be well ahead of those who lack such discipline.  Good decisions or choices are born of such discipline.

Life Coaching – integrates experience, dreaming, reality and vision to create your best self.  I find it equally effective for personal and business development. If you’re – stuck, lost, unhappy, happy, comfortable, scared or just out of therapy – “Life Coaching is for you.”  My clients tell me, “this isn’t therapy, but it is therapeutic.”

Any organization you can think of (political, business, educational, family, Church, sports teams, department teams, etc) functions with individuals who have various levels of authority. Results will vary within these organizations as to effectiveness, productivity, profitability, etc due to the composition of the team or organization and the single most determining factor in the level of success will always be the individuals within the organization.  People with better skills, talents, attitudes, work ethics, etc will “outperform” others with less of those qualities.  Simply stated – “Better people get better results.”

I’ve found it’s not the level of education, IQ, physical size, background or any other traits we commonly ascribe to people who are portrayed as successful by the media that leads to “better results.”   It’s the level of activity, dedication to the task, level of personal responsibility, leadership skills and clarity of the task required of them.  Those who “know themselves” as to their authentic strengths, values, talents and gifts and who align those traits with their “job description” and the activities they pursue in their lives achieve the outstanding outcomes they seek.

Coaches at all levels enhance the performance these people seek and achieve by being advocates, listeners, accountability partners, and most importantly loyal to their clients.  They bring a “trust” to the relationship that’s difficult to find in other areas of their lives.

My firm, Rezults Group, Inc, has developed a program many find useful in their day to day activities, I call it “Your Perfect on Purpose Day”, together we identify your most important and pressing goals, dreams, and aspirations … we explore and identify many of the attributes you possess (over 150 attributes) show you how you communicate with others and how they are receiving your input, categorize your values and rank order them using standards from recognized testing sources.  Once that work is complete we integrate those insights into a matrix that you define the parameters of so as to produce a day from start to finish that is completely in alignment with your values, is goal oriented, and provides you instant feed-back as to how well you are performing.  It’s completely customized to you and blending it with our “Goal Planning System” you’ll become a “Master Goal Achiever” and have control of your life; balance between your work and personal life will become evident; results will amaze you and “Dreams Will Come True.”

As a Life coach I don’t need to know about your past. I’m interested in where you are now and where you want to go. If you’re open minded, teachable, willing to invest in yourself and honor your commitments you’ll excel in our program.  Schedule a complimentary session with us to see if this is a fit for you … fill out the contact information today – click here

Then – (Greek definition) of “Perfect” –

Matt 5:48 Jesus told His hearers “Be ye perfect”. “perfect” to us today sounds like absolute perfection, but the Greek word here is “teleios”. “teleios” means “mature”, or “complete”.

Now – (modern definition) of “Perfect” –

pərˈfekt/ make (something) completely free from faults or defects, or as close to such a condition as possible.

Look around, what do you see?  I see many people from all walks of life, young and old, men and women, children who are possessed with what I consider an un-healthy obsession to be perfect. Young women strive to be or become “that perfect person balancing family and work” a quest “to have it all.”  Children are being “pushed” for lack of a better word to achieve perfection in dance, sports, academic achievement, etc.  You name it and there’s a program, institute, class, pre-school or whatever willing to take these developing young boys and girls and mold them into “someone else’s vision” of perfection.

To what end?  Psychologists, Psychiatrists, Doctors, Social Workers are busier than ever and mom or dad has yet “one more appointment” to juggle in an otherwise un-manageable day.

Does any of this sound or look familiar?  Here at Rezults Group we’re trying our best to mitigate these stressful days, crowded calendars, and the anxiety that goes with it.  Is there a solution?  Yes.

Our program is called “Your Perfect on Purpose Day”  (we had to include the word PERFECT so we’d get your attention … otherwise you’d not think it important enough to even consider it)  Its approach is based upon the Greek definition of the word perfect – mature or complete.  So the meaning behind the title is to assist one in accomplishing a “complete” day that brings the results you’re looking for and the benefit is worthy of your time.

We like to encourage people (young and old) to become “Master Goal Achievers” compared to what I commonly see “Master Goal Setters”  Don’t get me wrong setting goals, in my opinion, is wired into our DNA but many fall into the same trap that people who are viewed as “active” fall into.  It’s not productive.  Activity is not a reliable measure of productivity, and neither is setting goals.  One must “achieve” or “accomplish” the desired outcomes.

I’ve taken the best ideas on goal achievement and created our “Perfect on Purpose Day” system and by adding the word “Your” it adds the ownership you need to embrace the system and make it your own.  We combined and even improved upon the industry standard “S.M.A.R.T.” goals with all the recourring daily events that must be considered and accomplished in a normal day to produce a product, if you will, that will allow you to prioritize, execute and enjoy the day you’ve planned.

Join us today in taking “control” of your day, building a foundation that will serve you the rest of your life; no more stressed out trips to a professional to re-fill a prescription for a drug to calm your nerves, reduce anxiety, sleep better, etc – take control of your life and live on your terms.

It’s not a trip to McDonald’s “fix” … you’ll commit to weekly sessions of approximately 30 minutes each for 12 weeks, there will be “homework” and after that you will be armed with everything you’ll need to live in a World you have created that gives you the tools to success, which by our definition is – “the continual achievement of your predetermined goals, stabilized by balance and purified by belief.”

There are five vital questions that you must ask yourself regularly if you want to lead and perform at your very best:

First: What am I trying to do? Define the ideal goal or outcome that you are striving for before you begin. If you are working with others, make sure that everybody is crystal clear about the “what,” the desired result, before anyone starts work.

Second: How am I trying to do it? Make sure that this is the best way.  Ask if there could be another way. Always remain open to the possibility that you could be wrong. Think through and analyze your approach to be sure that it is the very best way to go about achieving your goal or objective.

Third: What are my assumptions? Are you making any assumptions with regard to the market, the actions or performance of other people, the underlying motives of the key players, or the outcome of future events? Remember, as Alec McKenzie wrote, “Errant assumptions lie at the root of most failures.”

Fourth: What if your assumptions were wrong? What if something that you believed to be true turned out not to be true at all? Perhaps someone you are negotiating with is only using this negotiation with you in order to get a better price or deal from someone else. Always be willing to question your most cherished assumptions.

Fifth: What would I have to do differently if my key assumptions were wrong? What would you do if this approach failed completely? What are your alternatives? If you were not now doing it this way, would you start it over again? Always be willing to ask the question, “How else could I go about achieving this same result?”